Wakes and after the funeral

The word ‘wake’ we use so often in association with funerals originally came from the ancient Indo-European root ‘weg’ or ‘wog’, which means “to be active”, and is related to the Latin ‘vigil’. Over time, this developed into several meanings, including ‘watching or guarding’, which became the word ‘watch’, and it is in this sense that people have a ‘wake’ for someone who recently died.

After the funeral service

It’s an opportunity to come together to say a final goodbye. The reception after the funeral service (also referred to as a wake) is a unique chance for the mourners who attended the funeral to share memories of the person they have lost. In historical times, the wake took place in the home of the deceased but today, other venues such as local community centres, pubs, restaurants etc. are now regularly used.

Just as funerals are becoming more unique, wakes are changing too. Many people choose to use this time to celebrate the life of their loved one rather than mourn their passing.

How to announce the wake

Along with the obituary notice, plans for the wake can be published – they can also be listed on the back of the order of service at the funeral itself. Depending on whether you’re holding a public or private affair, it’s important to communicate your expectations to potential guests.

Some factors to consider:

  • Number of guests likely to attend
  • Choice of venue
  • Food and drink
  • Entertainment
  • The budget you’d like to allocate

Leadbetter & Murphy have excelled relationships with  appropriate venues and caterers in the local area so we can provide information and suggestions to help you decide on the best wake for your friends and family.